OK. Here's the dilemma..what do you do when you really like one guy (who I shall call MWT) and he seems to like you but seems scared to actually define whatever it is going on between you and then there's your ex (who shall be called Owl) who less than 24 hours ago was telling you that he thinks about you all the time and wonders how things would be now if we hadn't split up, and that something drastic needs to happen. Something as drastic as him splitting up with the girlfriend he has and being with me or never seeing each other again. How should I respond.
My god its sooooo complicated. Owl is my ex from 2 years ago. I met him in my first week at work and unfortunately was married (big pants!). Anyway he split from his wife, we got together, I was totally in love with him, he apparently felt the same about me and everything was lovely. But after 6 months and with no warning he declared one day that 'he didn't want to go out with me anymore'. That was it, over in less than 30 seconds and no explanation. I stayed perfectly calm on the outside but inside I was totally devastated. He was the love of my life. I truly believed that he was THE ONE. Anyway to cut a long story short he started seeing someone else a few weeks after and that was that. I started getting on with my life. Or so I thought. Over the last 2 years since we split up we have seen each other virtually everyday in work and periodically outside of it. Lifts home, drinks after work and stuff. Occasionally we've kissed. And for about the first year I was waiting for him to turn around to me and say that he had made a mistake and that he missed me and wanted us to be together. But he never did. And now? I have had this sudden revelation from him and am not sure how to react. I still care about him a lot, we are still good friends and I think I can read him pretty well and yes sometimes I do miss him. But do I really want to get back with him? I don't think I do. Everyone would tell me that I would be a complete idiot to. He broke my heart once, who's to say he wouldn't do it again. He has an ex-wife and children. At 24 do I want to be dealing with that? And the most blindingly obvious thing- who's to say he would be faithful to me- he hasn't with anyone else.
It's just weird that I wanted him to say that for so long and now he has it's freaked me out.
And as for the other one- MWT- yet another from work (oh yes I know how to pick them!) I've known him for a couple of years but over the last couple of months we have become really good friends and I started to really like him. He said he liked me too but relationships scare him (one bitten twice shy, but who isn't?) and I said that we should just go with the flow- no promises and see what happens. Anyway we've kissed, we've slept together (oh my god is all I can say about that!) and we've talked about going away for a weekend and stuff together but he refuses to talk about what is actually going on between us. Friday night he said that he wanted me to be his girlfriend- I was sceptical about his sudden change of heart but thought 'hmm maybe there is potential here' but then we were talking on e-mail the other day and he said something like 'now you know why I don't have a girlfriend' Erm....hello.....I thought you'd asked me to be!
I'm not angry at him or anything even though I probably should be and decided that I wasn't going to stress about it and I would just get on with enjoying my life. But then when he thought that I was out last night he started sending me text messages. He seems to do it whenever I say I am going out. Its almost like he is making sure that I am behaving myself and he is reminding me he is there. But last night's one (other than hello, how are you) was 'u missing me?' WHAT?? I'm meant to miss you even though you don't seem to really be that interested in me. I don't think so!